Life is like a parabola. In 1989, I ended my singlehood in Beijing and formed a family with my husband. In 1992, our son was born, and we became a family of three. In 1997, when our son was five years old, I took him to the United States to reunite with my husband, starting a wandering life abroad. In 1999, while I was pursuing my master's degree, our second child was born, making our family a family of four. In 2005, as an engineer working for the US government, I gave birth to twins, and our family became a family of six.

So I started the process of working while raising four children. During this time, my relationship with my children kept adjusting and evolving. From leading and assisting to running alongside, I transformed from a strict "tiger mom" to a tolerant "fish mom." With four children of different personalities, I had to constantly learn and adapt to cope with the various changes under the "new situation." We argued, experienced tense relationships, but also laughed and felt genuinely proud. However, regardless of what happened, Love was always the main theme in our family. As the children grew up, I also grew. In the days of interaction, wit, and mutual inspiration between me and my four sons, there were many interesting moments and profound reflections. Afraid of forgetting them, I casually wrote over 400,000 words of essays.

In 2023, after the children left home, we returned to being a family of two, an empty nest. After the children went to college, I published two books documenting the stories of my growth with them, "Parenting in North America" education edition and life edition. At the same time, I began to explore myself, learning to swim, paint, dance, and perform in plays. As the president of the Maple Silicon Valley Drama Society, our play "The Chairs of Columbia University" caused a sensation in the Chinese community, contributing to the promotion of the contributions of Chinese Americans to the local communities.

人生就像一个抛物线。

1989 年，我在北京结束了单身生活，和先生组成两口之家。1992 儿子出生，我们变成了三口之家。1997年儿子五岁时，我带着他到美国和先生汇合，开始了在外漂泊的生活。1999年，我在读研的时候，老二降生，我们家成了四口之家。2005 年，在美国政府机关任工程师的我，生下了双胞胎，于是我们家变成了六口之家。

于是我开始了一边工作，一边养育四个孩子的过程。这期间，我和孩子们的关系在不断地调整演变。从领跑， 助陪到陪跑，我从一位严厉的“虎妈”变成了一位宽容的“鱼妈”。 四个孩子个性迥异，我要不断学习和调整，才能 适应“新形势”下的各种变化。我们吵过、关系紧张过，但也笑过、由衷自豪过。然而，无论发生什么，亲情始终是我们家的主线。孩子们在长大，我也在成长。 在我和四个儿子的互动，斗智斗勇，互相启发的日子里，有很多有趣的瞬间，也有心理震撼的反思，我怕自己忘记了，就随手写下 40 多万字的随笔。 2023 年，孩子们都离家了，我们又回到两口之家，空巢了。孩子们上大学后，我出版了记录我和孩子们共同成长故事的两本书《北美养娃那些事儿》教育篇和生活篇。同时我开始放飞自己，学游泳，学画画，学跳舞，排话剧。作为枫香硅谷剧社社长，我们排的话剧《哥大的椅子》，在华人社区引起轰动，为宣传在美华人对本地社区的贡献尽了一份力。